Dr. Annie Kaszina, who I referenced in the post “November is Woman Abuse Awareness Month”, has written what she would tell her younger self.
|You’ve made me wonder what I would tell my younger self. I think it would go something like this:
“Understand that whatever people may tell you, these years are given to you to learn how to be, and treat yourself like a precious person. Sure, it’s not easy. People will tell you that you need to be ‘cool’. What ‘cool’ really means is trying to earn approval from your peer group by doing things to impress – things that are damaging to you. These are years that you can use to fit in, and box yourself into a caricature of who you truly could be. Or you can use them as an apprenticeship in magic, when you learn to discover the magic of who you are. Do that, and your lifelong reward will be creating around you the magic of people who love you for all that is best in you. So, a quick rule of thumb: when people make fun of you, put you down, reject you, criticize you unfairly, or demand that you be other than you are, they aren’t interested in the best in you, or what’s best for you. They’re only interested in what they want from you, selfishly. You deserve far better than that. Nurture a belief in yourself. Do not turn to other people in the hope that they will do it for you. It’s your job. Believing in yourself WILL bring you rich rewards of love and happiness.”