This is a new segment of the blog I am going to title Seriously? Too often I find mind-boggling things that make me wonder why people were even given the ability to express irrational thought.
The first contribution to Seriously? comes after doing my morning scan of internet headlines. I came across one that read “Kate Middleton, Duchess of Cambridge Dismissed As Britain’s ‘Queen Wag’ By Feminist Author Joan Smith.”
I didn’t want to jump to conclusions right away, so I read over the article. Apparently, Joan Smith, a feminist author whom I really know nothing about (therefore my opinions are based solely on this article I have just read), believes that Kate Middleton has done nothing since graduating university other than support her partner and get married in a large ceremony, and Joan Smith thinks this is terrible.
Seriously Joan Smith? You are a feminist and you’re going to publicly shame and put down a woman? My number one hope for women everywhere is that we help each other by not tearing each other apart and cutting each other down – especially when one has a platform to be a role model as an author does. A big part of feminism, for me, is that women can choose to be whoever they want to be and do whatever they want to do (as long as it’s not hurting anyone). This includes this right to support your partner, get married, have children, etc. Although that may not be a choice fit for Joan Smith, I hope that she would be able to accept that it is Kate Middleton’s choice and that is fine.
There is enough pressure on women by our societies that we do not need to add to it. It is wonderful that we have outspoken and uber-motivated feminists like Joan Smith to fight on the front lines for women everywhere. It is also great that we have women who choose to support their families emotionally and raise children. While some women work, some volunteer. Seriously, just because a woman is not outspoken about causes doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have any.
Seriously! Let’s put more attention into our own lives and try to see the best in each other. If women don’t support and respect each other, we can’t expect anyone else to.
The same goes for the other author mentioned in the article, Hilary Mantel, who has publicly commented on Kate Middleton’s weight as being “painfully thin”. Seriously Hilary Mantel? You’re going to criticize a woman’s weight? Come on! This causes a huge offense to the feminist community because weight and micro-criticisms of women’s bodies is a major issue with our media and it is affecting young and mature women everywhere. God forbid people have different weights and different shapes. Seriously? Let’s put the focus elsewhere and work together.