…I would tell her about Jamie Hubley.


Click on this link to read about Jamie Hubley and watch a short video about his love for singing.  Jamie was a bright young man who liked to perform and sing, and he was openly gay.  Jamie was a young man who was bullied relentlessly by his peers, and his life ended in suicide.

It is good to have knowledge, even when it is painful or sad to learn.  Know what happened to this young man.  Know that it was wrong.  Know that somewhere, administrators/teachers should have stepped in.  Friends should have stepped in.  Strangers who witnessed this bullying should have stepped in.  Shame on those who thought they had a right to treat Jamie like trash.

By ignoring bullying, you allow it happen.  If you are too scared to stand up to a bully, tell an adult and get them to do it.  You are still helping.

“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”   -Edmund Burke

“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men and women do nothing.”    -Me

Be sure to check out this blog during the week of November 13-18, as that is National Bullying Awareness week and I will be doing more posts on bullying.


…I wouldn’t want her to deal with depression on her own.


Did you know that, according to the A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia in 2011 (you can find the article at http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002486/), adolescent girls are twice as likely to experience depression than adolescent boys?  This is one scary statistic.  So, why do young girls become depressed?

Depression is described as being sad, discouraged, and un-motivated.  It can also be a loss of self-worth and a lack of interest in things you used to enjoy.  There are many varied factors that can cause a young girl to be depressed.  The A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia says that depression can be caused by maturing and changing hormones or all different kinds of stress/disturbing events like physical or sexual abuse, bullying, learning disabilities, conflicts with your parents, failing in school, breaking up with your significant other or the death of someone close to you.  You are more likely to become depressed because of one of these events if you feel helpless or are too critical of yourself or if it runs in your family.  A lot of young people with depression also experience other mental health issues like anxiety, an eating disorder, ADHD, or Bi-Polar disorder.

It is extremely important to let someone in on what you’re feeling if you are experiencing depression.  It is ok to feel depressed and it is out of your control.  You don’t need to feel ashamed to tell a relative, teacher, doctor, friend’s parent, or friend that you trust.  Once you tell someone, you have started the process of healing.  You don’t have to face depression alone.  Remember that.  Also, I want you to know that it can get better.

There are several ways to treat true depression (by true depression, I mean the kind that consumes your life and you can’t simply will it away).  You can seek supportive care from your doctor, talk therapy (this is also something to be embraced and not feel ashamed of), or in some cases, you can be prescribed anti-depressant medications.

Depression, like any mental health disorder, does not make you “crazy”.  Many people experience a mental health disorder during the course of their life.  You are not alone and there is support out there for you.

A great resource is the National Institute of Mental Health website.  Here is the web address for their support page:


Thank you to the A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia found on the website for the U.S. National Library of Medicine for the facts about adolescent depression.