…I would tell her to work with other girls and not against them.


Why do we try to cut each other down?  I don’t know why we do it, but I know that we do.  I’ve seen it and I’ve been guilty of it.  Whether it’s the girl who starts the rumor, tells someone else the rumor, or allows someone to tell her the rumor and doesn’t stand up and say that it’s false, that girl is part of the problem.  Talking behind someone’s back, whether it’s the truth or not, is cutting someone down.  The purpose of gossip is to make the person you’re talking about look worse in the eyes of the person you’re telling.

We live in a time where, as girls, we are already fighting against outside forces that want to bring us down.  Television shows like “the Hills” portray us as catty, reality television shows like “Jersey Shore” portray us as shameless, and even the news channels like to play up the missteps of women in power to make them look simple-minded.  It hurts me to see us hurt each other.  We are smart, motivated, and caring.  We should be standing by one another and helping to lift each other up.  Think of all the wasted time and energy we put into disliking the girl that is different from us or the girl that wants the same boyfriend that we do or the girl who is going for the same spot in Student Council as we are.  If we could refocus that energy into seeing the beauty of another’s uniqueness or enjoying that the girl who is the best fit to be Student Council President gets elected, we would be in such a better place.  It hurts when I hear someone say something negative about me, so why would I do that to another girl?  I don’t want to be the cause of hurt for another human being.  I want to be the reason that someone smiled!

There are enough people trying to make life difficult for girls.  Let’s not help them!  We all just have a human desire to be liked by other people.  Is it really so hard to just be nice?  Helen Keller said, “Alone we can do so little.  Together we can do so much.”  If we work together, we can change the world.

What is a way that you’ve supported another girl?

What is a situation you’ve had where you wished another girl had helped you?